Teenagers can ask the weirdest questions...especially about love and marriage.
There is little I can say on love since I didn't get a chance to experience having a boyfriend (my dad and mom would have done more than use a shotgun)
My marriage was an "arranged"one and my teenager thinks it's not right. The understanding was that we were arranged to meet so we could date. We didn't. We met among a room of aunts and uncles and never made eye contact once. Nor did we exchange words or phone numbers. The "boy"left and no more was said. I went on to do my own thing.Two years later my brother came visiting and asked to chat with me.He wanted to warn me about a prospective boy.I had got cheesed off by all this meeting and checking and had made rules that my family would not cross so when I heard the boy was one I had met before I was confused. Why was he coming back?Did he know it was a girl he had already seen? I was not happy this was happening but agreed . Needless to say we met,went for a drive,asked each other the dumbest of questions and a month later we were engaged. The month between was the only time we actually can call dating cause he came every weekend.,we went out for dinners and lunches and long drives.
One of these drives stands out in my mind. We had had lunch and decided to go for a drive.The drive was long and we chatted amicably. Before we knew it we had left the plains and were heading uphill to the cooler climes of a tiny hill station where I had grown up.Soon we were parked outside the finest hotel our liittle town had and had even ordered coffee.Yhe time flew and we suddenly became aware of the evening as a few raindrops fell. We quickly started downhill,but with no mobile phones there was no way telling my mum I would be late.
As we turned into the lane going home and my future husband saw the balcony of anxious relatives he decided very quickly to drop me asap and make his getaway without any explanation.
Should I have learnt from this.....sadly no.
In spite of being left holding the bag I still said yes.
Anyway all's well that ends well.
My teenager still however believes in love
I hope that works out in her favour.
The winter has been colder this year and the need for a steaming cup of java is more than ever. The changes have been plenty and sacrifice has been the need of the hour but I am not giving up....my coffee nursery will start again as soon as I am ready.
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